Recognize or affirm the validity or worth of (a person or their feelings or opinions);
Cause (a person) to feel valued or worthwhile.
via Oxford Dictionary
We all want validation of some sort.
- A salesperson wants his sale pitch turn into green notes, so he can claim that he’s a ‘good’ salesperson. Otherwise, he has failed.
- A parent wants his kids to shine at school, so he can say he’s a ‘good’ parent. Otherwise, he has failed.
- A friend wants to know if she is being helpful, so she can keep feeling connected and fulfilled. Otherwise, she begins to question if the friend reciprocates her time and endeavor.
- But a writer, a writer just wants to hear any feedback you have for her story when you ask to read it. Otherwise, why bother?
I email-pitched a feature writing class for the coming Spring Quarter. Then the roster came out, my name wasn’t there, again. Surprise? Nope, I was not. It was not the first “Ouch Moment” since I got into the program. Was I hurt? A teeny bit.
But now I can shrug it off and move on. Just another pinch of salt throws onto my open wound. Now I am so much more thick-skinned, I feel I can take another blow. Why not? Punch me. Punch me hard. Let me see if that’s all you’ve got.
I want to keep getting better. I want to be so damn good, so damn big like an elephant, so the next time you see me, you can’t ignore me. Because you really have to address “The elephant in the room.”
“I will never let anyone see that they get to me.”
No, I don’t have a chip on my shoulder, literally or figuratively.
I just want to be the best. That’s all.